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The Presence of Absence/Protection Is…

Throughout this volume, we examine motherhood from different angles.

Throughout this volume, we examine motherhood from different angles – protection, instinct, conflict, and accountability. Some stories reveal what can happen when support is lacking, harm is hidden, or trust is misused.

One throughline: What is present is not always what is true, and what is absent is not always empty. What is missing matters just as much as what is present. This piece is a reflection of that space – the presence of absence, and the responsibility that grows from recognizing it.


It has a palpable aura and settles into places no one checks
In rooms that look full but feel off instead
A name that isn’t called enough
Questions stopped being asked, and a quiet lingers that feels wrong

It sits at the table like it belongs
stretching the silence – am I strong?
I learned not to expect, learned not to reach
To figure for myself what no one will teach
I grew around gaps, adjusted my pace
and started naming absence like it’s some kind of place

She looks like detachment dressed up as space
Like “everything is fine” painted on your face
Like time passing by, no trace, no check, no chase
Like love being shared, but not taking shape
Like patterns repeating but no one saying
This isn’t right
This isn’t safe

Protection is noticing what’s not there
Protection is inquiring when things aren’t clear
Protection is action, not words alone
Protection is being curious beyond what is shown
Protection is also presence – real and aware
Because absence is quiet, but it’s always there

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